U: Do you feel weird when you see me close with another friend?
U: In all honesty, O.
O: Honestly….. it was in the beginning but not anymore
O: but also not until jealous or anything just weird
O: ahaha cuz you were suddenly close to someone
O: just.. ya… SUDDENLY
O: hahahahaa!!!! i know that that is why i said only in the beginning
O: cuz only in the beginning i didnt really know who A was but now…. i think i kinda do…. and she is very different from all of us so the closeness you have with her would obviously be different
another friend asked, “how come whenever sam and yun are talking you don’t join them?” and (the reply was), “cos maybe they’re talking about something else i dunno about, so i just let them be lah.”
ya…. but even if he/she feels that way you wouldnt because of that become distant from A right???? you would just try and make him/her join your conversations.
i mean…. ya….. cuz A would also feel awkward if you distant yourself from her just to make others happy
that girl.. really knows the right things to say.. oh man..
” …a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest and most vulnerable. And they are people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am so helpless and weak. If I would trust my life with you, and vice versa, we are friends. It’s not about whether you are trustworthy, or whether you are friendly, it’s the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If I trust you to be truthful, then you’re a friend. If I find I must be careful how I say things, then it’s something other than friendship…
…Friendship is not a state of mind, it’s an act. It’s something you do, it’s not about whether you’re good or not, it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a balanced relationship between people. That doesn’t mean it’s always balanced at every moment. Sometimes you “need a friend” and other times it’s the other way. It’s a trust that’s returned.
…it’s not love unless it’s returned. Friendship and love are not quite the same thing, although there’s a lot of love around friendship. I learned that love isn’t even something about two people, it’s a state of being for one person. You aren’t in love, you are love. You are, whether you acknowledge it or not. The heart that’s pumping blood through your body is an act of love, 24 hours a day…
…“When a friend changes you can find the bond that’s connecting you at a deeper level. The surface stuff isn’t a good thing to depend on. Physical bodies change as they grow. So do emotional bodies and intellectual ones. Take a deep breath. People move, life is more like a wild dance than a ceremony. You just can’t tell what’s coming next.”
So if you find yourself trying to coerce someone into not changing, then… that is not friendship, that is coercion. “